How to Help Others

• Identify the signs of distress
• Connect with the person experiencing distress
• Understand the way forward together

IDENTIFY Signs of Distress

If someone is crisis (is an immediate danger to themselves or others), get them connected to a crisis resource immediately .

There can be many signs that someone may be in distress:

• Academic indicators

  • Sudden decline in quality of work and grades
  • Repeated absences
  • Not turning in assignments

• Physical indicators

  • Sleep problems/fatigue
  • Change in appetite or weight
  • Disoriented
  • Headaches/stomach problems

• Psychological indicators

  • Self-disclosure of personal distress that could include family problems, financial difficulties, depression, grief, or thoughts of suicide
  • Excessive tearfulness, panic reactions, irritability, or unusual apathy
  • Expressions of concern about the student by his/her/their peers
  • Feeling out of control
  • Mood swings
  • Sadness/depression
  • Irritability or agitation

  • Extreme worry, fear, or anxiety

In addition to identifying the signs of distress, you also want to identify the level of distress.

CONNECT with the Person Experiencing Distress

• Start a conversation with them. You could use phrases like:

  • “I’ve been noticing _____. What’s been going on?”
  • “How have you been feeling?”
  • “You haven’t seemed like yourself lately. What’s up?
• Truly listen to the student and be present with them
• Show that you care by expressing empathy

UNDERSTAND the Way Forward Together

• Help them develop a plan for the next action
• Focus on the most pressing concern
• Connect the student to a resource. You may want to walk with them to the resource ­­or call the resource together if they don’t feel comfortable on their own.
• Follow-up with them after to see if they followed through on the referral